Why Women Hate The Big Lebowski

Hint: It’s not because “Jackie Treehorn treats objects like women, man”

Paul Greenberg
3 min readFeb 13, 2024


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From time to time my teenage son and I will go in for a little bit of Lebowski riffing.

Should my son advance into the playoffs in one high school sport or another I will say to him, à la Jesús:

“I see you roll your way into the semis. Dios mio man…”

Should I find myself, in my 50-something way, searching my mind fruitlessly for a way to emphasize an importance, my son will say, à la Walter Sobchak:

“That was a valued . . . uh . . .”

Meanwhile, my son’s mother will look at us in silent exasperation. Should we dare to Lebowski in public, she will out these small exchanges to the larger group with a “there-they-go-again” eye roll and say something like, “men love that movie.” As if to say it’s a “men’s movie” not worth the consideration as a piece of art that spans worlds; as if to deny the shear stickiness of the dialogue — the particular way that script has of ear-worming its way into your very soul.

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Paul Greenberg

New York Times bestselling author of Four Fish as well as The Climate Diet and Goodbye Phone, Hello World paulgreenberg.org